Fulfilling a Father’s Expectations

Dear Coming Through The Rye Staff,

I’ve been playing football since I could walk. Anyways, this year was my first time playing for my high school. I just turned 15 years old. I am one of the only freshman on varsity, and I am starting quarterback. My father is pushing me so much. He will stop at nothing to make sure I’m the best – whether it’s making me get up at 4 AM everyday and running or throwing extra after practice everyday. Also, he never tells me that I’m doing it right. He always tells me what I’m doing wrong. He is worse than my coach. Yesterday, I was really sick (could not stop throwing up), so I missed my game. My dad was so mad at me. Even this morning he was mad, so he made me get up and run a few miles. I’m still sick too. My dad was not always this bad after my older brother decided not to play college ball. He started pushing me. I’m last boy in my family, so I’m the last one. And I guess he just doesn’t want me to screw up, but I don’t think I can keep doing this everyday. Also, he is pushing me to the point where I’m getting sick from it. And my mom just sits there and lets this happen. She says she tried to talk to him, but he won’t budge. I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do.

Sincerely,

Tyler

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Too young to have kids?

Dear Coming Through The Rye Staff,

My boyfriend and I have been together for more than a year… well not physically together since he lives and work in another country and gets to come home every few months. He’s a great guy – the most amazing, down-to-earth, family-oriented, and hardworking guy I’ve ever known. And he loves me like nobody else does. He would drop everything and jump on a flight to get to me if I asked him to. We plan to get engaged for Christmas. The problem is that he wants to start a family really soon. He really wants to have a kid, and I feel like I’m too young being only 21 years old. We can definitely afford a kid, and our families on both sides are eager to become grandparents. However, somehow I don’t think I’m ready. I’m very career-oriented, and I have a great social life. Also, I feel like I’m too young. Being pregnant and having a kid is just gonna cut my freedom. However, I don’t know how to explain that to him without him thinking that I’m only thinking about myself. Is that what I’m doing or am I really too young? Please give your advice.

P.S. I’m a model and a really beautiful one at that. Guys are always after me. I feel that might also be a reason for him wanting me to have a kid so soon. I might also be wrong to think so.

Sincerely,

Heidi

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