My husband is cheating on me with a prostitute…

September 9, 2013 By in Published Letters Tags: , , , , , , Leave a comment

Dear Coming Through The Rye Staff,

There is 16 year age gap between my husband and I.  He has two grown children – 19 year old son & 22 year old daughter.  They are happy being far from their dad, but everyday they squeeze him money with possible reason beside alimony.  We met and fell in love when he was totally broke.  I stand by him and support him in any way I can.  He is 50 years old, has a very short temper, and is financially doing okay after so many bad years.  He is always angry about everything, and he’s started really loudly shouting and cursing!

Just recently, I found out that he is cheating on me with prostitute.  I was shocked, but at the same time I feel for him, because l am not a sexual person.  It takes me long time to get in the mood, but it is frustrating for me.  I don’t know if I need to confront him or just be patient and give him more love, care, and sex.  Please advise me.

Sincerely,

Sun

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Sexuality & Friendship

September 8, 2013 By in Published Letters Tags: , , , Leave a comment

Dear Coming Through The Rye Staff,

I asked a question on Yahoo! ages ago asking if they thought I was bisexual.  And they said I was too young and should wait to make the decision.  I really think I am though.  I think I have feelings for my best friend.  She’s a girl by the way and so am I.

I love everything about her.  We’ve known each other for two years.  And come to think of it, she’s the reason I questioned my sexuality!  I remember the other week, she thought she had a crush on one of our other friends (who is also a girl), and I remember thinking “that’s fine.”  However, in truth I was crushed.  By the way, my best friend isn’t a lesbian.  In the end it was just a girl crush that she had – nothing serious.

People on Yahoo! are saying I should just go for it, but I’m wondering if she will say no.  If so, will it make things weird?  Maybe I should get a wingman to tip her off for me.

I really don’t know what to do!  Can you please give me some advice?

Thanks,

Jamie

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