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Why does he keep in contact after he broke up with me?

January 8, 2014 By in Published Letters Tags: , , , 2 Comments

Dear Coming Through The Rye Staff,

So two weeks ago, things ended. He told me he still loves me, but he just can’t be in a relationship when he knows he isn’t being the best boyfriend he knows he can be. I found out later that he slept with someone else while he was on a three-week holiday, and that he is on many dating sites and chats to girls he met there and girls he has met elsewhere.

A week after we broke up he said he misses me and he can’t stop thinking about me. He has contacted me every second day since. He told me he still loves me. However, I also found out today that he sends snapchats to girls, and they send him naked ones.

Why does he keep in contact after he ended things and is playing many other girls? It’s disgusting. When I ask why he says he wants to be friends and isn’t talking to anyone else or doing other things. However, I know 100% he is.

I’m obviously never going back there and I have made it very clear to him yet he still contacts me. As a guy or girl who has been in this situation or heard or has any advice, why would he continue to lie and do what he knows is wrong as he told me it was and he regretted it. Yet, he hasn’t stopped it.

Sincerely,

Chella

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My girlfriend said she needs space…

December 10, 2013 By in Published Letters Tags: , , , Leave a comment

Dear Coming Through The Rye Staff,

Ok here’s the info. I’ve been with my girlfriend for over 2 months now and everything worked out great we had some fights but we sorted it all out. Today we met and she said she didn’t want to go to this place with me to copy some stuff cause she wants to go home and I was like all right sure and I just left. I was little angry at that time but it slowly faded away. When I came home she messaged me asking me if I was angry I said kinda but not as much as you think. We started talking and she said we should take a break or something. I said that it eventually’s gonna turn into a breakup we started talking about some stuff again and she said I don’t know, I care about you and everything I’m not for a relationship anymore, I don’t know. And I asked her if she wants to take a break or break up she said I don’t know. And after a while she said she wants to be alone and not near anyone and that no one should ask about her and that she’s feeling depressed. She said to wait a couple of days to pass so she can think about everything. I felt like this couple of weeks ago too but it passed I’m not sure if it will pass her. I don’t know what to feel I mean she changed my life after I met her she is perfect we have everything in common and I just don’t want to lose her I don’t want to breakup cause of some stupid ****, I’m scared of losing her. Do you think that we are gonna break up or..? And can you give me some advice or something to do I just feel like **** after all of this

Sincerely,

Viktor

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Do I give my boyfriend a break or try to fix things?

September 15, 2013 By in Published Letters Tags: , , Leave a comment

Dear Coming Through The Rye Staff,

Lately my boyfriend and I have been going through some issues.  We’ve both been stressed and been arguing quite a bit over small things.  We’ve been together for almost three years now, and I truly think he is the one.  We see each other everyday, and I spend the night at his house almost every night.  Lately, he has seems really distant.  I confronted him about it, and he said he just isn’t as happy as he used to be because we fight so much.  He wonders if he would be happier single.  He says he wants to be able to sleep alone and do things independently without worrying if I would be upset.  Hearing this absolutely killed me.  However, he also said he still loves me and he does want to be with me.  He just doesn’t know how and if we can fix things.  I’m so confused now.  He decided he wanted to stay with me and to try to work things out.

One part of me desperately wants to try to spice up the relationship and remind him of why we are together and how in love we are.  However, the other part of me wants to give him space and let him be alone to miss me and realize he wants to stay together.  Although, I am terrified he may decide he likes being alone, and he won’t come back to me.  I really want to stay together, and I have no idea which approach to use.  Should I spice things up and remind him of why we are in love, or should I give him space?

Sincerely,

Jessica

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